Around this time of year, it is normal for me to feel incredibly overwhelmed. Each year, I plan for the holidays and pretty much, those plans fall through. I have been very honest with my children about this being a lean gift-giving year for us, as my finances simply have not kept up with the increasing cost of living. This is nothing new for many of my friends, for I am acutely aware of so many that have lost jobs, taken pay cuts or are still searching for work after being laid off for a long period of time.

I am grateful that I do not have selfish children who demand gifts or have unrealistic expectations. And, as much as I hate to admit it, it pains me that my children are so aware of how I magically make our money stretch each month. I know I am only able to do it by the grace of God. There simply is no other explanation.

Instead of being down or constantly complaining about a few temporary setbacks, we have found creative ways of enjoying the holidays:

First, the reason for the season is Jesus. It is not about receiving any other gift than the gift of salvation from our Lord and Savior.

Second, attend free activities in your town. They are out there and there are more than you can imagine. Look for them and attend. Support the organizations and let them know they are appreciated.

Third, make gifts for people. Every year, I have a massive cookie baking party (I was the only one at my party last year), where I have two cookies I only make once a year. For at least three hours, I bake and package tins of cookies to give as gifts. I also crochet and knit. That skill alone allows me to make wearables for my friends and family.

Fourth, start a tradition and stick to it. My children and I pick out new ornaments every year from Hallmark. We have such a good time doing it an especially enjoy seeing the ornaments from the previous year. We also like to visit holiday displays, living nativity scenes and ride around looking at holiday lights. The days I spend with my kids are priceless.

Finally, give the gift of time. The holidays mean more to me when I can spend it with people I love and care for. Gifts are nice, don’t get me wrong, but my best Christmas in a long time because I was with people who love me. I could not have asked for anymore.